Changing Your Name, or Not…

Today's brides are faced with a variety of choices when it comes to their name post “I Do”. You can:

•  Change your maiden name to your married name
•  Hyphenate your maiden name with your married name
•  Keep your maiden name
•  Choose a new married name for both

There are obvious pros and cons to each option. The most traditional option remains changing your maiden name to your husband's name for obvious reasons, it is the most socially acceptable option, especially if you plan to have children. But for brides who are getting married at a later age, are on a second marriage, or already have children, parting with a maiden name poses other concerns. For some women it simply does not make sense to change their name, which is why hyphenating has become more accepted and still allows the bride to retain her old name while embracing her new name. A unique and relatively uncommon option is to change to a new name for both, which symbolizes the start of their new life. This option remains fairly uncommon and is in the same vein as the male engagement ring to demonstrate equality in the relationship.

If you choose to change your name, you will need to decide if you will legally change your name or assume the new name. Most recommend assuming the name, as this changes every piece of identification except for your birth certificate. The reason for this is if you divorce it is easier if you have changed your name to change it back and it also allows future ancestors to trace their roots easier if your birth certificate is not altered.

If you are going to change your name, you will need your record of marriage, so entrust this important piece of documentation with a trusted member of your family or wedding party during the big day. Name changes have to take place within 90 days of the wedding or you will be charged for government identification changes. If you want to save the hassle, why not hire a company such as What's In a Name? To manage the tedious process of changing your name for you, go to www.bridalnamechange.com or call Rena (905) 567-5120.

Whatever route you choose, give your future name serious consideration and involve your fiancé in the discussion. It is a very personal decision and others may be all too eager to give you advice on this, but go with what works for you and ensure it is a decision you can live with ‘til death do you part'.

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